• Expert Q&A

    ...with Breeze’s resident psychologists Drs Dorothy and Jerome Singer.

    See The experts' view

    Q:

    "How many hours should my son spend playing outside per week? He's five."

    A:

    "As a rough guideline, we'd advise at least 30 minutes per day - although of course this is somewhat weather-dependent! If your child isn't used to unstructured outdoor play, start by spending 10 minutes with them setting a game up, and then leave them to get on with it. Once they get the hang of it, you won't be able to get them to come back inside."

    Q:

    "My daughter has extra curricular activities after school most days. (Piano on Monday, swimming on Tuesday, ballet on Wednesday...) Should I cancel the classes? I had no idea it was so important to give her time to play freely."

    A:

    "Talk to your daughter - ask her to pick her favourite one or two classes and drop the rest (She can always pick them back up later). Parents often feel organised activities are the best way to maximise their child's time - but we can't emphasise enough how important unstructured activities are for your child's learning and development!"

    Q:

    "I try to get my girls (9 and 11) to play outside more, but they're addicted to their keyboard, mobile phones and computer games. How can I wean them off technology? I wish I'd never bought the things!"

    A:

    "Ah, technology - it's a blessing and a curse! Resist the urge to ban your girls altogether, though. Don't make computer games a 'treat' either - this can be counter-productive since, by default, that makes every other activity a 'chore'. Instead, work to get more balance in their spare time. Buy or borrow a few outdoor games - few children can bear to look at a ball and hoop without having a go at shooting! If they're reluctant at first, introduce them to outdoor play gradually, perhaps by letting them take their portable video games outside."

    Q:

    "I wish I had more time to supervise my son (who's six) playing outside - but when I get home from work the priority is dinner, bath and bed. When do other mums have time?!"

    A:

    "So many moms ask this - modern life is just so busy for everyone! Our advice is to make the most of the time you do have with your child. In your case, there's no reason why bathtime and bedtime can't be creative and playful too. Turn his bedtime routine into quality time by thinking up fun games that encourage your son to play imaginatively. Not only can this time be superb for his learning and development, but you'll have great fun bonding too."

    Q:

    "When my little boy doesn't have enough time to play, he gets cranky. Is this normal? He's seven."

    A:

    "Absolutely! Research shows unstructured play is a crucial stress-reliever for children, as well as having huge development value. If your child feels worried about exams or friends, for example, play is a great way to unwind. Crucially, play-time is one of the few times when the child, and only the child, is in control of what's going on."